Start Your Morning Off the Right Way

By: Emilia
There are so many mornings I wake up and feel like never leaving my comfy bed. Sometimes I’m just lazy, but usually I have work to do later that day and I just don’t want to do it. We’ve all had those days. However, every time the sunrises, we are given the opportunity to “seize the day” and it’s our choice whether we use that potential or waste it away. 
Wake up and take in the little things. Maybe you want to focus on how beautiful and soft that light seeping through your shades look, how gentle those sheets feel against your skin, or maybe how adorable (or hilarious) those snores sound coming from your dog across from you. Take a look out your window and let your eyes wander up to the beautiful sky, and wander down to the grass, cars, or dirt. Isn’t Mother Earth beautiful?
Take a few minutes to get your blood flowing. It doesn’t take an hour yoga session to get your muscles warmed and ready for the day. Stretch to the sky, to your side, and then take in a deep breath while you reach to your toes.
Open some windows. Just letting some fresh air in can relax your body and change your whole mindset.
If you’re the kind of person who likes to wash their face and brush their teeth before grabbing some breakfast, then so be it. But if you aren’t, head to the kitchen in your pajamas and messy hair.
Drink a glass of water or maybe some berry tea before you eat your breakfast. You system is almost dehydrated while you sleep, so usually when you wake up, your body is yearning for some ice cold water. 
Don’t skip breakfast. You’ll learn to love it when you get used to eating in the morning.
Breakfast is a super important meal, so eat a nutritious one. Make a bowl of oatmeal and cut up some strawberries. Or you can make overnight oats, so your breakfast will be ready for you when you wake up. The recipe is: 2/3 cup of raw oats, 2/3 cup of unsweetened almond milk, 2/3 cup of plain Greek yogurt, 1 tablespoon of chia seeds, and a few dashes of cinnamon. Stir it up, place it in your refrigerator, and it’ll be ready for you in the morning! This is also a great recipe for school, so you aren’t rushing to make your meal.
Sit down and relax. Eat slowly and take in your surroundings. Walk into this day knowing it’ll be a great one. And if it’s not? Make it a great one.

Start Your Morning Off the Right Way

By: Emilia

There are so many mornings I wake up and feel like never leaving my comfy bed. Sometimes I’m just lazy, but usually I have work to do later that day and I just don’t want to do it. We’ve all had those days. However, every time the sunrises, we are given the opportunity to “seize the day” and it’s our choice whether we use that potential or waste it away. 

  • Wake up and take in the little things. Maybe you want to focus on how beautiful and soft that light seeping through your shades look, how gentle those sheets feel against your skin, or maybe how adorable (or hilarious) those snores sound coming from your dog across from you. Take a look out your window and let your eyes wander up to the beautiful sky, and wander down to the grass, cars, or dirt. Isn’t Mother Earth beautiful?
  • Take a few minutes to get your blood flowing. It doesn’t take an hour yoga session to get your muscles warmed and ready for the day. Stretch to the sky, to your side, and then take in a deep breath while you reach to your toes.
  • Open some windows. Just letting some fresh air in can relax your body and change your whole mindset.
  • If you’re the kind of person who likes to wash their face and brush their teeth before grabbing some breakfast, then so be it. But if you aren’t, head to the kitchen in your pajamas and messy hair.
  • Drink a glass of water or maybe some berry tea before you eat your breakfast. You system is almost dehydrated while you sleep, so usually when you wake up, your body is yearning for some ice cold water. 
  • Don’t skip breakfast. You’ll learn to love it when you get used to eating in the morning.
  • Breakfast is a super important meal, so eat a nutritious one. Make a bowl of oatmeal and cut up some strawberries. Or you can make overnight oats, so your breakfast will be ready for you when you wake up. The recipe is: 2/3 cup of raw oats, 2/3 cup of unsweetened almond milk, 2/3 cup of plain Greek yogurt, 1 tablespoon of chia seeds, and a few dashes of cinnamon. Stir it up, place it in your refrigerator, and it’ll be ready for you in the morning! This is also a great recipe for school, so you aren’t rushing to make your meal.
  • Sit down and relax. Eat slowly and take in your surroundings. Walk into this day knowing it’ll be a great one. And if it’s not? Make it a great one.

A Guide To Public Speaking
By: Rebecca

I admit, there is something terrifying about using your voice in front of a large group of people.
Below I have compiled some tips and tricks to help you overcome those butterflies. These are things that really work for me, and have helped me to become a confident public speaker.
1. No one is listening anyway. Ok, unless you are the president of a country, team leader, politician, or are hosting an event this one probably doesn’t apply to you. But if your speech is for school, to be honest the only person that’s really paying attention is your marker. So you can relax, knowing that as long as you don’t do something stupid your peers are just watching your mouth move, and hearing your voice like they do every day.
2. I admit, that doesn’t help much, and its probably not good advice. But, on the flip side you should really know your audience. If you are speaking to your marker, or a judge direct your gaze at them. Public speaking is essentially a one sided conversation, so making your audience feel as though they are part of what you are saying is really important.
3. Slow down! Hold your horses and have a think about what you are going to say. Most young women have a tendency to get all of the words out and then sit down. As well as something teachers tell you to do to get top marks, slowing down allows your body to ease into the situation. If you heart is racing and your head is spinning, having a slow and steady voice really drags those things back into line.
4. Breathe. Ok, the opportunity may be inevitable and you still might be scared to death. The key is to trick your mind into thinking the conversation is as normal as anyone you are having, like when you tell your mum about a dream or your day. Keep your breathing normal, no short sharp breathes.
5. Dress up. For the occasion your should wear something comfortable but slightly more formal that your daily attire. Even if you have a uniform you should make an effort to straighten yourself out. Immediately you will command respect from your audience. For girls with long hair, tying you hair away from your face stops you from hiding behind yourself.
6. Stand tall, be proud and be you. Let your audience know your character. Most peoples fear comes from feeling completely open to others judgment. Therefore, make up a new character, put yourself up there as someone different. Even Beyoncé does this!
7. Be prepared! You want to understand the material you are presenting, and hopefully passionate about it too. Its easier to speak confidently about something you have knowledge about rather than something you did a google search about the night before.
The basics: Your voice should be slightly above normal speaking volume and slightly slower than normal speaking pace.
Even if these tips still leaving you scared to death, try focus on how fantastic it is going to feel when that speech, presentation or debate is finally over.
A final piece of advice: Focus, prepare and take things slow.

A Guide To Public Speaking
By: Rebecca

I admit, there is something terrifying about using your voice in front of a large group of people.

Below I have compiled some tips and tricks to help you overcome those butterflies. These are things that really work for me, and have helped me to become a confident public speaker.

1. No one is listening anyway. Ok, unless you are the president of a country, team leader, politician, or are hosting an event this one probably doesn’t apply to you. But if your speech is for school, to be honest the only person that’s really paying attention is your marker. So you can relax, knowing that as long as you don’t do something stupid your peers are just watching your mouth move, and hearing your voice like they do every day.

2. I admit, that doesn’t help much, and its probably not good advice. But, on the flip side you should really know your audience. If you are speaking to your marker, or a judge direct your gaze at them. Public speaking is essentially a one sided conversation, so making your audience feel as though they are part of what you are saying is really important.

3. Slow down! Hold your horses and have a think about what you are going to say. Most young women have a tendency to get all of the words out and then sit down. As well as something teachers tell you to do to get top marks, slowing down allows your body to ease into the situation. If you heart is racing and your head is spinning, having a slow and steady voice really drags those things back into line.

4. Breathe. Ok, the opportunity may be inevitable and you still might be scared to death. The key is to trick your mind into thinking the conversation is as normal as anyone you are having, like when you tell your mum about a dream or your day. Keep your breathing normal, no short sharp breathes.

5. Dress up. For the occasion your should wear something comfortable but slightly more formal that your daily attire. Even if you have a uniform you should make an effort to straighten yourself out. Immediately you will command respect from your audience. For girls with long hair, tying you hair away from your face stops you from hiding behind yourself.

6. Stand tall, be proud and be you. Let your audience know your character. Most peoples fear comes from feeling completely open to others judgment. Therefore, make up a new character, put yourself up there as someone different. Even Beyoncé does this!

7. Be prepared! You want to understand the material you are presenting, and hopefully passionate about it too. Its easier to speak confidently about something you have knowledge about rather than something you did a google search about the night before.

The basics: Your voice should be slightly above normal speaking volume and slightly slower than normal speaking pace.

Even if these tips still leaving you scared to death, try focus on how fantastic it is going to feel when that speech, presentation or debate is finally over.

A final piece of advice: Focus, prepare and take things slow.

Neighbors
By: Nigar
I rushed into my room and slammed the door on my way in. Another long day at school. I sighed as I dropped my bag on the floor and put a hand through my hair. I needed to clear my head. I slipped out my school uniform and put on my Arctic Monkeys t-shirt, which is way too big for me. I just needed this t-shirt, no matter what size. I opened the window in my room and climbed my way out to the tiny roof of the room under me. I sat down and already felt much better. I come here whenever I need some time alone. I love to watch the world up here where no one can bother me. The sun was already setting on my left side and in front of me was the window of our neighbors. The curtain of the neighbor’s window is always closed. It’s the house of the May’s. My parents and I barely see or know something about them because they’re never home. They do have a son, never seen him though. But the curtain isn’t closed today. It was half open and the only thing I saw was an empty room with a bookshelf, a bed with a blue bedspread and a chair in front of a desk which was right in front of the window. As I bend over to look a little closer into the room I noticed the room wasn’t empty anymore. A boy came in the room and sat down in the chair right across me. He didn’t notice me. He has brown messy hair and wears nerdy glasses which I swear have seen at the vintage store around the corner. He has a pretty slim figure and wears a knitted sweater. He grabbed one the books he had on his desk and looked up at the window. He was startled when he saw me and dropped his book on the floor. I wanted to turn around and go back to my room like nothing happened, but I didn’t move. I just stared at him. After a few long seconds he finally picked up his book and took it with him as he climbed on top of his desk to open the window. He sat on the tiny roof across me. He smiled. He had one of those smiles you just can’t forget. “Autumn right?” he asked. I nodded. “Isaac”. He put out his hand and I shake it. He looks a little older than me. “Are you alright?” he asked a bit worried. “I’m fine.” I lied and showed him my smile. “Are you sure?” he asked hesitated. “What’s that?”. I ignored the question and pointed at the black book he took with him. “Oh this is a sketchbook. I draw sometimes.” he said as he nervously scratched his neck. “Can I see?” I asked curious. “They’re not very good, just some doodles” he said with a shy smile . I grabbed the book anyway. “Autumn, come on, give it back!” he said and tried to grab it back. ” No, I wanna see!” I laughed and hold it away from him while I opened the book. I stopped laughing and stared with an open mouth at the paper in front of me. It was a drawing of a girl. Every detail, every line, it was so real. Her hair, her eyes, her hands, everything. Even the freckles on her nose looked so perfect, like little stars on her face. The girl was me.

Neighbors

By: Nigar

I rushed into my room and slammed the door on my way in. Another long day at school. I sighed as I dropped my bag on the floor and put a hand through my hair. I needed to clear my head. I slipped out my school uniform and put on my Arctic Monkeys t-shirt, which is way too big for me. I just needed this t-shirt, no matter what size. 
I opened the window in my room and climbed my way out to the tiny roof of the room under me. I sat down and already felt much better. I come here whenever I need some time alone. I love to watch the world up here where no one can bother me. 
The sun was already setting on my left side and in front of me was the window of our neighbors. The curtain of the neighbor’s window is always closed. It’s the house of the May’s. My parents and I barely see or know something about them because they’re never home. They do have a son, never seen him though. But the curtain isn’t closed today. It was half open and the only thing I saw was an empty room with a bookshelf, a bed with a blue bedspread and a chair in front of a desk which was right in front of the window. 
As I bend over to look a little closer into the room I noticed the room wasn’t empty anymore. A boy came in the room and sat down in the chair right across me. He didn’t notice me. He has brown messy hair and wears nerdy glasses which I swear have seen at the vintage store around the corner. He has a pretty slim figure and wears a knitted sweater. 
He grabbed one the books he had on his desk and looked up at the window. He was startled when he saw me and dropped his book on the floor. I wanted to turn around and go back to my room like nothing happened, but I didn’t move. I just stared at him. 
After a few long seconds he finally picked up his book and took it with him as he climbed on top of his desk to open the window. He sat on the tiny roof across me. He smiled. He had one of those smiles you just can’t forget. “Autumn right?” he asked. I nodded. “Isaac”. He put out his hand and I shake it. He looks a little older than me. “Are you alright?” he asked a bit worried. “I’m fine.” I lied and showed him my smile. “Are you sure?” he asked hesitated. “What’s that?”. I ignored the question and pointed at the black book he took with him. “Oh this is a sketchbook. I draw sometimes.” he said as he nervously scratched his neck. “Can I see?” I asked curious. “They’re not very good, just some doodles” he said with a shy smile . I grabbed the book anyway. “Autumn, come on, give it back!” he said and tried to grab it back. ” No, I wanna see!” I laughed and hold it away from him while I opened the book. I stopped laughing and stared with an open mouth at the paper in front of me. It was a drawing of a girl. 
Every detail, every line, it was so real. Her hair, her eyes, her hands, everything. Even the freckles on her nose looked so perfect, like little stars on her face. 
The girl was me.

5 Things I Have Learned In The Past 5 Days
By: Kenzy
1. Do not be afraid to show emotion.
Today when my baby cousin was born, I cried at her arrival. The other day, I laughed my ass off at a video that nobody else thought was funny. Feel things without shame. You should not be ashamed of your emotions. You should scream when you are angry and cry when you are sad. Allow yourself to feel. Tell people how you are feeling. Always be honest to yourself about your emotions and feelings. 
2. Just because someone does not express their love and emotions in the same manner that you do, does NOT mean they do not love and care for you.
Everyone expresses themselves differently. Everyone`s brain works in different ways. Just because you would do something a certain way, does not mean someone else would. Stay open minded and do not assume.
3. You can not save someone who does not want to be saved. 
Although it is tough to not invest yourself into someone you love, you can’t help them if they deny your help. You can be prepared for when or if they need you, give them your two sense when necessary, but do not force them to open up to you. Stand by their side and hold their hand, but do not pull them where you think they should go when they do not desire too.
4. Do bad things. 
Live. Have fun. Go out of your comfort zone. Explore different things. Try new things. Break the rules. But know your personal limits. Be self aware of what your body and mind can handle. 
5. Accept the feeling of being alone. 

Although it is not a great feeling to experience, once you accept and become comfortable with the idea, your heart is a lot easier to mend when dealing with and ending toxic relationships. Being alone is okay, and it is apart of life. You will survive.

5 Things I Have Learned In The Past 5 Days

By: Kenzy

1. Do not be afraid to show emotion.

Today when my baby cousin was born, I cried at her arrival. The other day, I laughed my ass off at a video that nobody else thought was funny. Feel things without shame. You should not be ashamed of your emotions. You should scream when you are angry and cry when you are sad. Allow yourself to feel. Tell people how you are feeling. Always be honest to yourself about your emotions and feelings. 

2. Just because someone does not express their love and emotions in the same manner that you do, does NOT mean they do not love and care for you.

Everyone expresses themselves differently. Everyone`s brain works in different ways. Just because you would do something a certain way, does not mean someone else would. Stay open minded and do not assume.

3. You can not save someone who does not want to be saved.

Although it is tough to not invest yourself into someone you love, you can’t help them if they deny your help. You can be prepared for when or if they need you, give them your two sense when necessary, but do not force them to open up to you. Stand by their side and hold their hand, but do not pull them where you think they should go when they do not desire too.

4. Do bad things.

Live. Have fun. Go out of your comfort zone. Explore different things. Try new things. Break the rules. But know your personal limits. Be self aware of what your body and mind can handle. 

5. Accept the feeling of being alone.

Although it is not a great feeling to experience, once you accept and become comfortable with the idea, your heart is a lot easier to mend when dealing with and ending toxic relationships. Being alone is okay, and it is apart of life. You will survive.

Can you be a feminist and hold different beliefs?

By: Hannah
We are living in a world full of injustice and misogynistic men. FACT. All men are pigs. Not true. But there are enough pigs in this world to make all women terrified out of their minds.
There is currently, a huge flaw in feminism. Feminism,in actual fact, is the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. A feminist is someone who supports this belief. 
There is a whole debate about women and how they clothe themselves resulting in the provocation of men. Women should have the right to wear whatever the hell they want to and feel comfortable. Women should not have to worry about rape or murder or sexual harassment on a daily basis because of the way they clothe themselves. It is abysmal how we live in a society where rape culture is a THING, where often, the victim is blamed for being subjected to assault. It is disgusting, how some men cannot control themselves. Women and men are equal. When men sexually harass women, they are degrading women’s worth and publicly displaying that they think that men are better than women, and are entitled to harass them. This is clearly wrong, men have no right to do this. It is not only illegal but utterly gross and teaching other people to feel the same way about women. 
Some feminists think that in a perfect world, women should wear whatever they want to wear. But, this is not a perfect world and if women are constantly attracting unwanted attention, why can’t they swap their booty shorts? It is true, that this is less than ideal. In fact, awful. There are studies to show men are attracted to skin. You only have to look around you to be frank. So why do women HAVE to wear less skin when they know they are going to be somewhere there is going to be a lot of men? This is another debate that a lot of feminists hold too. If you think about it, they are not entirely wrong. But, a lot women have problems with this idea because men should control themselves, women shouldn’t have to change and give up everything they have fought for. Feminists argue they are going to fight for what is right.However, wearing more clothes in actual fact, can make you not only feel safer, but ACTUALLY safer to some extent. This may sound ‘extreme’ but in a lot of cases, it’s true. Men have even said that showing your skin can make them more likely to go up to you. Thus, this debate about covering up actually does have some logic behind it, and should not be put down completely either.
However, you can argue that the latter is completely ridiculous and restricts your sexuality. Women may go into bars for example, to get laid. Nothing shocking here, it happens more than you think. By wearing more clothes - lots of women feel they can’t get laid, they don’t feel themselves or they don’t feel ‘cute’, ‘sexy’ etc.
What we have to realize is there are lots of different opinions out here. Feminism isn’t a straight forward thing, a lot of sub topics are intertwined and cause debates and complex arguments, that people cannot agree on. What I have to ask you to remember is, to not put people down for what they think. The feminists that think wearing more clothes can stop assault should not be put down. They may be right, but we just don’t want to wear less clothes. They may be wrong, but we are still not going to wear less clothes…In my opinion, they are probably correct. But it’s okay if you don’t feel the same way. This is life and you are entitled to your own opinion. Feminism is growing. There is more awareness about feminism than ever and girl power is growing rapidly!

Can you be a feminist and hold different beliefs?

By: Hannah

We are living in a world full of injustice and misogynistic men. FACT. All men are pigs. Not true. But there are enough pigs in this world to make all women terrified out of their minds.

There is currently, a huge flaw in feminism. Feminism,in actual fact, is the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. A feminist is someone who supports this belief. 

There is a whole debate about women and how they clothe themselves resulting in the provocation of men. Women should have the right to wear whatever the hell they want to and feel comfortable. Women should not have to worry about rape or murder or sexual harassment on a daily basis because of the way they clothe themselves. It is abysmal how we live in a society where rape culture is a THING, where often, the victim is blamed for being subjected to assault. It is disgusting, how some men cannot control themselves. Women and men are equal. When men sexually harass women, they are degrading women’s worth and publicly displaying that they think that men are better than women, and are entitled to harass them. This is clearly wrong, men have no right to do this. It is not only illegal but utterly gross and teaching other people to feel the same way about women. 

Some feminists think that in a perfect world, women should wear whatever they want to wear. But, this is not a perfect world and if women are constantly attracting unwanted attention, why can’t they swap their booty shorts? It is true, that this is less than ideal. In fact, awful. There are studies to show men are attracted to skin. You only have to look around you to be frank. So why do women HAVE to wear less skin when they know they are going to be somewhere there is going to be a lot of men? This is another debate that a lot of feminists hold too. If you think about it, they are not entirely wrong. But, a lot women have problems with this idea because men should control themselves, women shouldn’t have to change and give up everything they have fought for. Feminists argue they are going to fight for what is right.However, wearing more clothes in actual fact, can make you not only feel safer, but ACTUALLY safer to some extent. This may sound ‘extreme’ but in a lot of cases, it’s true. Men have even said that showing your skin can make them more likely to go up to you. Thus, this debate about covering up actually does have some logic behind it, and should not be put down completely either.

However, you can argue that the latter is completely ridiculous and restricts your sexuality. Women may go into bars for example, to get laid. Nothing shocking here, it happens more than you think. By wearing more clothes - lots of women feel they can’t get laid, they don’t feel themselves or they don’t feel ‘cute’, ‘sexy’ etc.

What we have to realize is there are lots of different opinions out here. Feminism isn’t a straight forward thing, a lot of sub topics are intertwined and cause debates and complex arguments, that people cannot agree on. What I have to ask you to remember is, to not put people down for what they think. The feminists that think wearing more clothes can stop assault should not be put down. They may be right, but we just don’t want to wear less clothes. They may be wrong, but we are still not going to wear less clothes…In my opinion, they are probably correct. But it’s okay if you don’t feel the same way. This is life and you are entitled to your own opinion. Feminism is growing. There is more awareness about feminism than ever and girl power is growing rapidly!

My trip to Italy

By: Valerie

A week ago I came back from my stay in Italy. I had a lovely time with my family and ate too much gelato, but hey that’s what summer is for! Today I would like to share my experiences and ice cream recommendations with you!

Adriatic Sea

My parents and I stayed in two different places. The first week we stayed in the east coast, close to the beautiful Trieste. Trieste is an old city build against a mountain with sea sight everywhere. The architecture is beautiful and the people are chic and sophisticated. Not a surprise that they call it “Paris” of Italy. Other than admiring the old buildings, Trieste is a great place to do some shopping. There’s lots of cute cafés and little restaurants and you can get the most delicious ice creams! 

Not only is the city very pretty, the road that leads to the city is also stunning. As you drive through the mountains you can see the clear blue water of the sea. If you would like to see more of that, just stop the car and walk to the sea. You’ll find hidden bays with turquoise water and the most stunning view. 

Lago di Garda

The next week we stayed at Lago di Garda, the biggest lake situated in Northern Italy. I had been here before, so we spent a lot of time by the pool. Nonetheless, we did visit some cute small towns. We went on a boat to visit to the other side called Bardolino. An ancient city with lots of small streets with cute little shops. We ate the BEST ice cream ever! It was so delicious! If you happen to visit Bardolino, make sure you get your ice cream at Gelateria Cristallo.

The city we stayed in was Peschiera, and it is also very beautiful. It’s surrounded by water and there are cute bridges everywhere. In Peschiera there’s also a lot of cute shops and every Monday there is a market. 

The Italian food is always good and the people were very friendly! I suggest you to try out a different pizza in every restaurant you go to, so you can decide which restaurant is the best. (and you have an excuse to eat a lot of pizza)

Lots of love !

Dealing With Bullies

By: Bay
Dealing with bullies can be confusing. You don’t want to tell a teacher or parent because then the matter can get worse, but you don’t want to hold it in because you feel like you should tell someone. What should you do?
Although it’s annoying to admit, most of what your parents tell you is true. I’ve had multiple bullying experiences throughout my life so far. I’m in my last year of middle school and let me tell you girls are vicious. They will do anything to get under your skin.
I’ve been left out, and picked on for most of my life. For some reason I am an easy target, I don’t know why probably because I’m different from most girls my age. I don’t get sucked into the lies and rumors. I’m not afraid to fight back.
I’ve moved middle schools once because I was bullied. It was as if I was brutally slaughtered. My second middle school was a little bit better, I met really really good friends. Although I wasn’t incredibly popular people knew me. Until my best friends turned on me.
They were constantly mean, so I left them. I don’t really have any other friends besides them.
On top of that, I had a boy who was threatening me. I didn’t go to anyone because I was scared he would find out and it would get worse. I told my mom and she told me she would go to the principal if I wanted. I said it was fine. I avoided him, i’m hoping it will get better next year.
In my opinion there’s nothing you can really do about bullying. Ignoring it is best, if it gets to the point where you come home crying, then don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. You’re strong, you don’t have to take their crap.
Most bullies do this because they’re scared themselves. They don’t know how to handle their feelings so they take it out on other people. I’m not telling you that you have to be mean, but you shouldn’t have to deal with people throwing you down and making you feel bad about yourself.
If you become mentally, physically, and emotionally unstable, talk to someone admit that you need help. It’s okay, this doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.
Be true to yourself, love yourself, and cherish your body, because that’s what’s most important.
If you don’t feel comfortable going to your parents or your teacher, message Reef Mag everyone is incredibly nice and I’m sure they’d be happy to help.
Don’t be scared of getting picked on, the only reason they choose you is because you are unique. You scare the bully, they don’t want someone like you because they’re scared that people will find out how incredibly amazing you are and like you better than they like the bully.
People who are mean to other people will go nowhere in life, people who are true to themselves, and nice to other people, will do great things.
I hope this helps you.
Xoxo

Dealing With Bullies

By: Bay

Dealing with bullies can be confusing. You don’t want to tell a teacher or parent because then the matter can get worse, but you don’t want to hold it in because you feel like you should tell someone. What should you do?

Although it’s annoying to admit, most of what your parents tell you is true. I’ve had multiple bullying experiences throughout my life so far. I’m in my last year of middle school and let me tell you girls are vicious. They will do anything to get under your skin.

I’ve been left out, and picked on for most of my life. For some reason I am an easy target, I don’t know why probably because I’m different from most girls my age. I don’t get sucked into the lies and rumors. I’m not afraid to fight back.

I’ve moved middle schools once because I was bullied. It was as if I was brutally slaughtered. My second middle school was a little bit better, I met really really good friends. Although I wasn’t incredibly popular people knew me. Until my best friends turned on me.

They were constantly mean, so I left them. I don’t really have any other friends besides them.

On top of that, I had a boy who was threatening me. I didn’t go to anyone because I was scared he would find out and it would get worse. I told my mom and she told me she would go to the principal if I wanted. I said it was fine. I avoided him, i’m hoping it will get better next year.

In my opinion there’s nothing you can really do about bullying. Ignoring it is best, if it gets to the point where you come home crying, then don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. You’re strong, you don’t have to take their crap.

Most bullies do this because they’re scared themselves. They don’t know how to handle their feelings so they take it out on other people. I’m not telling you that you have to be mean, but you shouldn’t have to deal with people throwing you down and making you feel bad about yourself.

If you become mentally, physically, and emotionally unstable, talk to someone admit that you need help. It’s okay, this doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.

Be true to yourself, love yourself, and cherish your body, because that’s what’s most important.

If you don’t feel comfortable going to your parents or your teacher, message Reef Mag everyone is incredibly nice and I’m sure they’d be happy to help.

Don’t be scared of getting picked on, the only reason they choose you is because you are unique. You scare the bully, they don’t want someone like you because they’re scared that people will find out how incredibly amazing you are and like you better than they like the bully.

People who are mean to other people will go nowhere in life, people who are true to themselves, and nice to other people, will do great things.

I hope this helps you.

Xoxo

Let’s Talk About Panties!
By: Rebecca
Whether it is summer, winter, spring or autumn, (or days with a mixtures of all of these seasons), where you live right now, there is one clothing item that I assume everyone won’t be without.
Thanks right, lets talk about panties. No matter what you call them, they come in thousands of different colours shapes and sizes.
There is something therapeutic about getting home, taking off your outfit from the day and relaxing in your panties and favourite long T-shirt with a cup of tea. My summer mornings are spent on the deck with my family, baggy t-shirt and decent boy shorts, taking in the sun and eating summer fruits. In the winter you can find me having extra long lay ins, with bright underwear to lighten up my day and a bulky sweater to keep me warm.
I have compiled a list of my favourite four panties, to go from season- season, that I really can’t be without! So if you feel like trying something new, and update your options for ‘down-there’, have a browse through these options.
The practical
1 : There is a reason why Calvin Klein makes underwear. Timeless, classic, elegant and what everyone wants really. There are no extra lace bits, extra elastic bits or extra bits that you don’t want. Just really good material, really good fit and “Calvin Klein” printed on the waistband. These are my go-to.
The sexy
2 : Stella McCartney lingerie is absolutely gorgeous. It keeps things sexy without being tarty or over done. I first owned a few Stella McCartney bras that I picked up in a bendon sale at $20 a piece last year. After wearing them heaps, and it was time for them to go, I instantly returned to bendon to pick up my new favourites. I am a sucker for bright coloured panties, and when writing this article, these caught my eye. The right amount of mesh, and flattering cut, mixed with the playful colours make these my new “sexy” underwear.
The comfortable
3 : Bonds seem to be every girl’s go-to (in New Zealand and Australia) at least. This pair is just the right material, right fit and that little touch of lace keeps you feeling girly. Also might I add, I could have put these under the practical as well, but the material is so comfortable, it kind of deserved its own title!
The, I can’t live without
4 : Ok, I would also call these babies ‘the ultimate’. They could have taken out the practical, the comfortable, the sexy and any other underwear appropriate title I could have ever thought of. Seriously, lonelyhearts can do no wrong, and when it comes to their lingerie they are spot on! I own these in a black and charcoal grey, and both colours compliment every outfit.
The quality of the lace is beyond compare. I wash mine in a lingerie wash bag (like most of my intimates) and they have always come up perfect. The fit is super comfortable and fabric is super soft (Oh and not to mention the matching bras are gorgeous).  Currently in desperate need of the electric blue (and lux brief in orange). 

Who knew a pair of panties could be so much. I challenge you to explore your options and come up with your own favourite four! After all, panties are something you really can’t be without!

Let’s Talk About Panties!

By: Rebecca

Whether it is summer, winter, spring or autumn, (or days with a mixtures of all of these seasons), where you live right now, there is one clothing item that I assume everyone won’t be without.

Thanks right, lets talk about panties. No matter what you call them, they come in thousands of different colours shapes and sizes.

There is something therapeutic about getting home, taking off your outfit from the day and relaxing in your panties and favourite long T-shirt with a cup of tea. My summer mornings are spent on the deck with my family, baggy t-shirt and decent boy shorts, taking in the sun and eating summer fruits. In the winter you can find me having extra long lay ins, with bright underwear to lighten up my day and a bulky sweater to keep me warm.

I have compiled a list of my favourite four panties, to go from season- season, that I really can’t be without! So if you feel like trying something new, and update your options for ‘down-there’, have a browse through these options.

The practical

1 : There is a reason why Calvin Klein makes underwear. Timeless, classic, elegant and what everyone wants really. There are no extra lace bits, extra elastic bits or extra bits that you don’t want. Just really good material, really good fit and “Calvin Klein” printed on the waistband. These are my go-to.

The sexy

2 : Stella McCartney lingerie is absolutely gorgeous. It keeps things sexy without being tarty or over done. I first owned a few Stella McCartney bras that I picked up in a bendon sale at $20 a piece last year. After wearing them heaps, and it was time for them to go, I instantly returned to bendon to pick up my new favourites. I am a sucker for bright coloured panties, and when writing this article, these caught my eye. The right amount of mesh, and flattering cut, mixed with the playful colours make these my new “sexy” underwear.

The comfortable

3 : Bonds seem to be every girl’s go-to (in New Zealand and Australia) at least. This pair is just the right material, right fit and that little touch of lace keeps you feeling girly. Also might I add, I could have put these under the practical as well, but the material is so comfortable, it kind of deserved its own title!

The, I can’t live without

4 : Ok, I would also call these babies ‘the ultimate’. They could have taken out the practical, the comfortable, the sexy and any other underwear appropriate title I could have ever thought of. Seriously, lonelyhearts can do no wrong, and when it comes to their lingerie they are spot on! I own these in a black and charcoal grey, and both colours compliment every outfit.

The quality of the lace is beyond compare. I wash mine in a lingerie wash bag (like most of my intimates) and they have always come up perfect. The fit is super comfortable and fabric is super soft (Oh and not to mention the matching bras are gorgeous).  Currently in desperate need of the electric blue (and lux brief in orange). 

Who knew a pair of panties could be so much. I challenge you to explore your options and come up with your own favourite four! After all, panties are something you really can’t be without!

Back to School Room Makeover
By: Nicole

With the start of the next school year approaching soon, there’s no better time to get your room organized and beautified! Make your bedroom serve its purpose as storage for your prized possessions and a cozy oasis. Before you get overwhelmed, take a look at this article for tips and tricks for freshening up your room so it looks its best.
The list below has been compiled to inspire you while you transform your room. Most items can be personalized any way you like to suit your style and personality, and are neutral so the main focus of your room is the things that make you happy. Before you start your room makeover, consult this list and maybe even make your own list of things you would like for your room. Many of the items in this article can be altered to fit your style and preferences, as these are just suggestions!
Sheets and Bedding 
Since the bed is usually the focal point of a room, it is important that it represents your aesthetic and captures the essence of your style. Sheets in a neutral color such as white or gray are recommended, since they match anything and will never go out of style. White bedding (pillows, comforter, quilt) can lighten up a room and make it feel more open and airy, and acts as a blank canvas to the possessions and decorations in the room. Patterned or colorful bedding serves as the focal point in an otherwise neutral colored room.
Suggested places for sheets and bedding: Urban Outfitters, Ikea, Target.
Mirror(s) 
A full-length mirror comes in handy on early school mornings and allow for more convenient dressing. Styling an outfit is tremendously easier when in front of a mirror. Mirrors, when strategically placed, can give a room the appearance of being bigger or more spacious. Stand-up mirrors look best in a corner, while over-the-door mirrors can be hung from a closet door to save space.
Suggested places for mirrors: Ikea, Target, Wayfair.com.
Storage 
Storage is a necessity in any bedroom, and it is crucial to have as much of it as possible to accommodate personal belongings. As stated earlier, neutral colors are recommended for furniture to accentuate decorations and possessions. Ample styles are available for furniture, including wood, clear plastic, glass, and more. Dressers are essential for keeping clothing neat and organized. Choose one with a lot of drawers. Night tables are very necessary to hold a clock, glass of water, book, lamp, phone and other things one might need before bed or when they wake up. Put one on either side of the bed, or place one on the side of the bed for easy access.
Vanities and Wardrobes 
They are not necessary for a bedroom, but are ideal for extra storage if space allows for them. Ikea has gorgeous wardrobes to hang up and/or display your favorite clothes. Investing in a clothing rack allows staple clothing pieces to be displayed and really add a personal touch to a bedroom. Plus, they allow easy access in a hurry.
Suggested places for storage: Ikea, Target, Pottery Barn
Desk & Chair
A quiet place to focus is a key element to having the ideal room. Whether it be studying, drawing, writing, blogging or doing homework, everyone needs a tranquil work space. Desks and chairs to go with them look great in neutral tones such as white, black, and wood. Clear plastic or glass desks are also a unique option. Make sure to invest in a desk that provides enough space for belongings, and a chair that is comfortable. A cute fuzzy pillow would be a change of texture on top of a wooden chair!
Suggested places for desks and chairs: Ikea, Target, Pottery Barn.
Lighting 
Proper lighting is an essential element in a bedroom. It is important to have a mixture of natural light and artificial lights (such as lamps) to provide the appropriate amount of light at any time of the day. Ideally, there should be a lamp on the desk (to provide ample light while working), on the night tables (to find a glass of water or check the clock at night), and a lamp or two in corners of the room to provide extra light, if necessary.
Suggested places for lights: Ikea, Target, Home Depot, Pottery Barn, Lowes.
Extra Seating 
A few spare seats are a thoughtful option that gives friends and guests a place to relax while hanging out in your room. They also make a great cozy place to curl up with a book or talk on the phone. Many options of seating are available, so the possibilities are endless! Beanbag chairs, love seats, hanging chairs, armchairs, lounge chairs and ottomans are just a few examples.
Suggested places for extra seating: Ikea, Pottery Barn, Target.
Organic Elements
Plants can make any room instantly feel more natural, inviting and beautiful! From miniature trees to potted flowers to tiny succulents and everything in between, let nature add an organic accent to your room!
Suggested places for organic elements: local nurseries, Home Depot, Ikea, Lowes.
Personal Accents 
A neutral colored room is the p-e-r-f-e-c-t blank canvas to add personal accents and make a room one of a kind. Furry rugs, patterned carpets, or tapestry rugs look great against a hard floor such as wood or tile. To spice up walls, invest in a pretty painting or two, or create your own! A clothesline strung across a wall provides a creative way to display your favorite memories or your favorite photos from tumblr. Try making a collage of your favorite photos and magazine clippings to frame and hang on the wall as well.
For the avid note-taker or the social butterfly, a space dedicated to keeping notes or plans is a must. Hang a bulletin and/or dry-erase board above your desk to keep track of your schedule. A calendar also makes for a handy tool to write down dates and times. Not into dry-erase boards? Many craft stores and home improvement stores sell chalkboard paint, which is painted onto any hard surface to create a chalkboard that can be written on!
Another simple way to add a personal touch to a bedroom is to display a stack of magazines: create a pile of your favorite magazines with thick spines (i.e. Vogue, Teen Vogue, InStyle, Russh, etc.) and place it on the corner of a dresser or desk, on the floor, under a night table, or anywhere else. It can also double as a cute place to display small decorations in your room.
A popular trend right now is Mason jars. Try using a few on a desk or a side table and filling them up with small treasures such as seashells, glitter, candies, mints, flowers, movie tickets, and more. Mason jars also make perfect storage for desk necessities such as pencils, paper clips, and scraps of paper to write notes on! Still not sure what to do with those extra Mason jars lying around? Search “Mason jar” on Pinterest for some DIY ideas!
Decorations & Knick Knacks 
They add a quirky element to a room. Check out a thrift shop for interesting antiques and unique pieces of pottery, porcelain, and glass. Urban Outfitters has a wide variety of fascinating decorations and accessories to appeal to any taste. For hand-made unique decorations, shop on Etsy. Who knows what you will find?!
Suggested places for personal accents: Etsy, Ikea, Goodwill, Urban Outfitters, Target, Pottery Barn, and your own home!
Don’t shy away from displaying your own personal belongings as decorations either! A few pretty perfume bottles or nail polishes can add a stylish feel to your room. Picture frames with your favorite pictures or memories in them can brighten up your room and your mood as well!

Was your back to school room makeover a success? Feel free to submit pictures of your results to the mag, and I might post them in a follow-up article!

Back to School Room Makeover
By: Nicole

With the start of the next school year approaching soon, there’s no better time to get your room organized and beautified! Make your bedroom serve its purpose as storage for your prized possessions and a cozy oasis. Before you get overwhelmed, take a look at this article for tips and tricks for freshening up your room so it looks its best.

The list below has been compiled to inspire you while you transform your room. Most items can be personalized any way you like to suit your style and personality, and are neutral so the main focus of your room is the things that make you happy. Before you start your room makeover, consult this list and maybe even make your own list of things you would like for your room. Many of the items in this article can be altered to fit your style and preferences, as these are just suggestions!

Sheets and Bedding

Since the bed is usually the focal point of a room, it is important that it represents your aesthetic and captures the essence of your style. Sheets in a neutral color such as white or gray are recommended, since they match anything and will never go out of style. White bedding (pillows, comforter, quilt) can lighten up a room and make it feel more open and airy, and acts as a blank canvas to the possessions and decorations in the room. Patterned or colorful bedding serves as the focal point in an otherwise neutral colored room.

Suggested places for sheets and bedding: Urban Outfitters, Ikea, Target.

Mirror(s)

A full-length mirror comes in handy on early school mornings and allow for more convenient dressing. Styling an outfit is tremendously easier when in front of a mirror. Mirrors, when strategically placed, can give a room the appearance of being bigger or more spacious. Stand-up mirrors look best in a corner, while over-the-door mirrors can be hung from a closet door to save space.

Suggested places for mirrors: Ikea, Target, Wayfair.com.

Storage

Storage is a necessity in any bedroom, and it is crucial to have as much of it as possible to accommodate personal belongings. As stated earlier, neutral colors are recommended for furniture to accentuate decorations and possessions. Ample styles are available for furniture, including wood, clear plastic, glass, and more. Dressers are essential for keeping clothing neat and organized. Choose one with a lot of drawers. Night tables are very necessary to hold a clock, glass of water, book, lamp, phone and other things one might need before bed or when they wake up. Put one on either side of the bed, or place one on the side of the bed for easy access.

Vanities and Wardrobes

They are not necessary for a bedroom, but are ideal for extra storage if space allows for them. Ikea has gorgeous wardrobes to hang up and/or display your favorite clothes. Investing in a clothing rack allows staple clothing pieces to be displayed and really add a personal touch to a bedroom. Plus, they allow easy access in a hurry.

Suggested places for storage: Ikea, Target, Pottery Barn

Desk & Chair

A quiet place to focus is a key element to having the ideal room. Whether it be studying, drawing, writing, blogging or doing homework, everyone needs a tranquil work space. Desks and chairs to go with them look great in neutral tones such as white, black, and wood. Clear plastic or glass desks are also a unique option. Make sure to invest in a desk that provides enough space for belongings, and a chair that is comfortable. A cute fuzzy pillow would be a change of texture on top of a wooden chair!

Suggested places for desks and chairs: Ikea, Target, Pottery Barn.

Lighting

Proper lighting is an essential element in a bedroom. It is important to have a mixture of natural light and artificial lights (such as lamps) to provide the appropriate amount of light at any time of the day. Ideally, there should be a lamp on the desk (to provide ample light while working), on the night tables (to find a glass of water or check the clock at night), and a lamp or two in corners of the room to provide extra light, if necessary.

Suggested places for lights: Ikea, Target, Home Depot, Pottery Barn, Lowes.

Extra Seating

A few spare seats are a thoughtful option that gives friends and guests a place to relax while hanging out in your room. They also make a great cozy place to curl up with a book or talk on the phone. Many options of seating are available, so the possibilities are endless! Beanbag chairs, love seats, hanging chairs, armchairs, lounge chairs and ottomans are just a few examples.

Suggested places for extra seating: Ikea, Pottery Barn, Target.

Organic Elements

Plants can make any room instantly feel more natural, inviting and beautiful! From miniature trees to potted flowers to tiny succulents and everything in between, let nature add an organic accent to your room!

Suggested places for organic elements: local nurseries, Home Depot, Ikea, Lowes.

Personal Accents

A neutral colored room is the p-e-r-f-e-c-t blank canvas to add personal accents and make a room one of a kind. Furry rugs, patterned carpets, or tapestry rugs look great against a hard floor such as wood or tile. To spice up walls, invest in a pretty painting or two, or create your own! A clothesline strung across a wall provides a creative way to display your favorite memories or your favorite photos from tumblr. Try making a collage of your favorite photos and magazine clippings to frame and hang on the wall as well.

For the avid note-taker or the social butterfly, a space dedicated to keeping notes or plans is a must. Hang a bulletin and/or dry-erase board above your desk to keep track of your schedule. A calendar also makes for a handy tool to write down dates and times. Not into dry-erase boards? Many craft stores and home improvement stores sell chalkboard paint, which is painted onto any hard surface to create a chalkboard that can be written on!

Another simple way to add a personal touch to a bedroom is to display a stack of magazines: create a pile of your favorite magazines with thick spines (i.e. Vogue, Teen Vogue, InStyle, Russh, etc.) and place it on the corner of a dresser or desk, on the floor, under a night table, or anywhere else. It can also double as a cute place to display small decorations in your room.

A popular trend right now is Mason jars. Try using a few on a desk or a side table and filling them up with small treasures such as seashells, glitter, candies, mints, flowers, movie tickets, and more. Mason jars also make perfect storage for desk necessities such as pencils, paper clips, and scraps of paper to write notes on! Still not sure what to do with those extra Mason jars lying around? Search “Mason jar” on Pinterest for some DIY ideas!

Decorations & Knick Knacks

They add a quirky element to a room. Check out a thrift shop for interesting antiques and unique pieces of pottery, porcelain, and glass. Urban Outfitters has a wide variety of fascinating decorations and accessories to appeal to any taste. For hand-made unique decorations, shop on Etsy. Who knows what you will find?!

Suggested places for personal accents: Etsy, Ikea, Goodwill, Urban Outfitters, Target, Pottery Barn, and your own home!

Don’t shy away from displaying your own personal belongings as decorations either! A few pretty perfume bottles or nail polishes can add a stylish feel to your room. Picture frames with your favorite pictures or memories in them can brighten up your room and your mood as well!

Was your back to school room makeover a success? Feel free to submit pictures of your results to the mag, and I might post them in a follow-up article!

I am outraged!
By: Rebecca

“This is a vast world, and we see its interdependence. We are interconnected in ways we never were before, but some things in this world are unacceptable. To see this, you have only to open your eyes. I tell the young: just look, and you’ll find something. The worst possible outlook is, indifference that says, ‘I can’t do anything about it, I’ll get by.’ Behaving like that deprives you of one of the essentials of being human: the capacity and the freedom to feel outraged. That freedom is indispensable, as is the political involvement that goes with it.”
-Charles Glass, Time for Outrage!
In my readings set this week for one of my papers, I looked at the above paragraph with much interest.
What jumped out at me at first was the author’s direct mention to “the young”. Now this is a scholarly article, don’t get me wrong, but I think the basic idea behind this passage is so elementary, that people need to be reminded of its simplicity, as to ignite the role that they can play in the world.
I will begin by stating what I think the author means. The world is becoming increasingly connected through the development of new ideas and technologies, and new ways of managing ourselves. For example, you’re reading this on tumblr. No matter what country you are in, through this website you are able to read this opinion written by a young New Zealand woman.
That’s pretty cool right. How we can connect, and share ideas and influence each other’s thoughts from the other side of the planet! But the author goes on… With this increasing connectedness, issues that were once on the other side of the world are now on our back door. This is what he means by “some things in this world are unacceptable”.
What is unacceptable to one person, where they live, may be entirely different to what is unacceptable to someone else. But the point remains, where ever people look there are injustices happening everywhere, and opinions that need stating!
The command is for young people, and I would add, especially young women to find something that they feel passionate about, and formulate their opinion on it. I am NOT asking you to start the next big petition, start a rally, join a protest or become the prime minister.
All that is being suggested is that as young women we should really take a look at the shops, the society, the ideas, the issues and the people popping up around us. We should ask ourselves, ‘am I ok with that?’, ‘What does that mean for me?’, ‘Where will that take me?’. And if your answers are no, nothing much and a place I don’t want to be, you should exercise your voice.
The point is not to be loud, the point is to know who you are, and stay informed. The capacity and freedom to feel outraged, as referred to above, are things that are essential to you as a humans. Exercising that capacity and freedom helps you decide where you stand in this crazy world of interconnections, and just how bad things are going to have to get before you use your voice. 
Finish this sentence, not for me, your followers or your family, but for yourself, just in your head… “I am outraged, that…’

I am outraged!
By: Rebecca

“This is a vast world, and we see its interdependence. We are interconnected in ways we never were before, but some things in this world are unacceptable. To see this, you have only to open your eyes. I tell the young: just look, and you’ll find something. The worst possible outlook is, indifference that says, ‘I can’t do anything about it, I’ll get by.’ Behaving like that deprives you of one of the essentials of being human: the capacity and the freedom to feel outraged. That freedom is indispensable, as is the political involvement that goes with it.”

-Charles Glass, Time for Outrage!

In my readings set this week for one of my papers, I looked at the above paragraph with much interest.

What jumped out at me at first was the author’s direct mention to “the young”. Now this is a scholarly article, don’t get me wrong, but I think the basic idea behind this passage is so elementary, that people need to be reminded of its simplicity, as to ignite the role that they can play in the world.

I will begin by stating what I think the author means. The world is becoming increasingly connected through the development of new ideas and technologies, and new ways of managing ourselves. For example, you’re reading this on tumblr. No matter what country you are in, through this website you are able to read this opinion written by a young New Zealand woman.

That’s pretty cool right. How we can connect, and share ideas and influence each other’s thoughts from the other side of the planet! But the author goes on… With this increasing connectedness, issues that were once on the other side of the world are now on our back door. This is what he means by “some things in this world are unacceptable”.

What is unacceptable to one person, where they live, may be entirely different to what is unacceptable to someone else. But the point remains, where ever people look there are injustices happening everywhere, and opinions that need stating!

The command is for young people, and I would add, especially young women to find something that they feel passionate about, and formulate their opinion on it. I am NOT asking you to start the next big petition, start a rally, join a protest or become the prime minister.

All that is being suggested is that as young women we should really take a look at the shops, the society, the ideas, the issues and the people popping up around us. We should ask ourselves, ‘am I ok with that?’, ‘What does that mean for me?’, ‘Where will that take me?’. And if your answers are no, nothing much and a place I don’t want to be, you should exercise your voice.

The point is not to be loud, the point is to know who you are, and stay informed. The capacity and freedom to feel outraged, as referred to above, are things that are essential to you as a humans. Exercising that capacity and freedom helps you decide where you stand in this crazy world of interconnections, and just how bad things are going to have to get before you use your voice. 

Finish this sentence, not for me, your followers or your family, but for yourself, just in your head… “I am outraged, that…’